"Life Unscripted"

EW!

2005-09-12T17:31:00.000-07:00

Asalam A'lakum Brothers and Sisters,

It's been quite awhile, I do admit. I apoligize profusely and beg you to keep reading. I've been busy with the first few months of my marriage, but I should be blogging regularly again.

In fact, I thought of this blog a few minutes ago when I was utterly disgusted! I was browsing the internet looking for a CD when a Pakistani site caught my attention. Pakistan being a Muslim country often attracts my attention, so I quickly read the few lines provided to support the site through the search engine. I was horrified and nearly slapped the computer screen because of what those few lines contained.

Heinous lyrics. Not profane, lewd, etc....Simply heartless.

September 11 was a tragic day for EVERYONE. Not a soul went by unaffected. I nearly cry everytime I see the movies of it. It's not something that SOME people should be joking around about.

Especially not scoffing at. This tragedy could have occured anywhere. Certainly Allah must have had reasons for selecting the location he did, but the point remains that this tragedy could have been in Pakistan. Luckily, it wasn't, but unfortunately it was in the US. I would have preferred it occur not at all. Just because it didn't occur in your homeland doesn't mean you should superciliously make up songs laughing at Sept 11. That is a terrorist action. That's heartless. Disgusting. Just EW!

I'm a very non-violent, passive person, but I feel like smacking anyone who begs to differ with me when I say respect should be given to Sept 11. It was a tragedy for EVERYONE. Don't you even try to celebrate!!

AAAH... I'm so enraged by this that I can scarcely type, let alone think!

On the other hand, I am very proud of the HUNDREDS OF THOUSANDS of Muslims that volunteered on Sept 11 and made a difference. Subhanallah. May God Bless you. I love it. Such positive action shows the world who Muslims truly are. Peaceful servants of Allah. Not terrorists!

Married life....Ah, ladies no stereotype can prepare you for the real thing. I'll leave it at that. I enjoyed Spain, but we are back in the States for the time being. Ah, how I will miss the fresh bread every morning. :-)

I will be back later, time to set dinner on the table for LovelyHusband.

Salams!

~Muslim Princess~

SubhanAllah

2005-06-10T13:51:00.000-07:00

Asalam a'lakum Brothers and Sisters,

I am proud to announce that I have been married for nearly a week now. My wedding took place last weekend. The idea of having a husband is still new to me, and I do get a surprise out of it at least 30 times a day.

Mr. MP has been very nice about things. I broke the teapot on the morning after our wedding, the antique vase the third, and the rare painting now has a hole in it from my dropping it. :-\ Luckily, Mr. MP waved it off as nervousness and adjusting to a new enviornment. My mother-in-law was nice about it as well. My Father-in-law, however, looked as if he were containing an eruption as he grit hsi teeth to keep from saying anything.

I was nervous beyond words about getting married. The week before-through, my wonderful Sister S made time to take me places. She accompanied me as I got a trial make-up test done for my wedding, as I went to get my pedicure/manicure, my hair done, etc. This was especially nice of Sister S, for Sister S abhors make-up on women under the age of 20-something. Also, since Sister S refused to get her make-up done (she doesn't wear anything, but eyeliner)...she sat there the whole time talking to my mother and her mother.

Day 1- We got me all beautified.Day 2- It was "relax" day. For me, that is.Day 3 - Mehndi. Sister S came over early and eased my tension. She quickly solved all my problems with practical solutions and helped me cover my head. She also helped me walk out with my skirts. It was sweet of her since I snapped at her for most of the time. As I sat there on the stage next to my future Mr. MP...I was so nervous. It became difficult to breathe. I fidgeted with my hands. As future Mr. MP accidently dropped money on my hand and reached over to pick it up, I was so nervous a sound escaped me unconciously. Luckily, Sister S noticed my dilemma and pretended to have stepped on my foot. I love her. My Mehndi dried very nicely.Day 4 - I got natural skin whitening done because Sister S is passionately against the regular form. She says it gives you Skin Cancer. I don't know, but medical is her field, so I trust her. She then prepared me mentally by making me laugh. Then, my aunt came with extended family and took me to the beauty parlor. Ove rthere, my make-up was done,a nd I got dressed. Soon, I was chauffered to this gorgeous hall. It was my wedding day. I think Sister S was disappointed in me because I continued to scream at her for no reason. I was a Bride-Zilla. I also looked around the room quite alert.

You see, Sister S believes that nice brides are seen not heard sort of. She doesn't think they should be looking around excitedly, nor should they be getting up to socialize with friends. All night, I neglected to thank Sister S for all taht she has done. I spent time with other friends, but I only called her when I needed something, and then I yelled at her. I feel horrible about it now. Sweet as she is, Sister S went off and did every task. She also was a bit quieter than usual. I believe it had to do with my behavior, and so she spent most of her time with women her mother's age and two or three girls her age. I felt terrible because I knew she wasn't coming to the regular group because she was sick of me yelling at her.

Before I forget, thank you very much Sister N for arranging the horse-drawn carraiges. That was very nice.

Anyway, I cried for two hours when I got to Mr. MP's casa. Mr. MP looked at me helplessly as we were driven home.

Day 5 - Mr. MP made breakfast and attempted to cheer me up with this gold necklace that has been in his family for centuries. We later joined my family for a breakfast, then his family for lunch, and his best friend for dinner. I didn't talk to anyone all day,a nd I missed Sister S's reassuring ways.

Day 6 - We went to people's houses again for meals. The other time was occupied with us packing for the move to Spain. I called Sister S to apoligize, but her mom said that she was at the hospital. I took this the wrong way, and bothered Mr. MP enough to make him drive us to the local hospital. There, I saw Sister S lugging two heavy boxes with another Hindu girl (I believe), and punching in a pass code. I was so relieved I nearly ran up and hugged her. Mr. MP was not pleased when I didn't bother to even tell Sister S salam. He was, however, glad to know she was well. Also, I attended a Dhole Ke for a friend.

Day 7 - Mr. MP cooked all the meals for us. :-D I like that. I absolutely cannot stand cooking. Then, after Maghrib...his parents surprised us with tickets to several locations including...France, Germany, Austria, Russia, Pakistan, Australia, and Hawaii. I think I'll keep Father-in-law for now. ;-)

I'm very lucky to have married Mr. MP. You see, I'm an unemployed woman at the moment. I had to quit my job for the marriage and move to Spain. Once in Spain, I doubt I will be able to locate a job that fits me. I don't speak the language, you see.

Anyway, Sister S. If you're reading this...please forgive me. You are my dearest friend and like my younger sister. I cannot bear to move without saying "Goodbye." Thank you for all that you have done for me. I hope you succeed in your goals in life and one day when it's your turn to get married, you'll have me to pamper you. I know you won't be a Bride-Zilla and you will be the modest bride that mother-in-laws love. You're a very nice girl. The nicest I know. Always stay as generous, selfless, hard-working, brilliant, beautiful, caring, and humorous as you are now. You'll get through Med School fine, and you will probably be the best student they've had in years. You will get a 6-7 figure starting pay, and you will still be the Masjid girl you rae now. You will get many proposals, unlike most girls. You see, it's very uncommon to find someone like you. Your parents have doen a very nice job. Not only are you beautiful and intelligent, but you carry the attributes that make everyone love you as well as those of a good Muslim. When you do get married, do invite me. I would love to see you as a bride. You looked gorgeous in the red/orange clothes you wore to mehndi, the yellow clothes you wore last night were beautiful on you (most girls cannot pull them off), and the white looks magnificent on you. You were the belle of the ball. Imagine what you would look like in heavy clothes with make-up and your hair done. Just imagine. You're also somewhat tall, whereas I'm only 5ft 2 inches. Your husband won't be able to remember his name and your mother-in-law will thank Allah (SWT). Also, I must warn you. Many men will hate your husband out of jealousy. It's already evident that others are jealous of you when you're so innocent. I love you dear. Please do forgive me. I hope the above paragraph didn't make you feel too uncomfortable!

Salams
~Muslim Princess~

Jazakallah

2005-05-15T14:48:00.000-07:00

Asalam a'lakum,

How many of us bother to stop and say thank you for all the things we have been blessed with? So many people around the world are suffering from much adversity. We are lucky to be so blessed. To have a computer. To have friends. To be alive.

Think about it. It takes two secs to thank Allah (swt) and three hours to go watch a movie. Take that two secs to thank Allah (swt).

_Wedding News_

So my fiance and I had a "family date" the other night. Both our families got together, and we went out to a local restaurant. It was a gorgeous place. Tres cher. The attire was formal, so all of us were wearing suits and whatnot. I felt slightly out of place as heads turned to see the hijabi girl, but Sister S assured me all was fine when I later called her from the restroom. She just said that people marvle at it, and then respect it. She's right. I love Sister S, but she makes me feel rather dumb. I depend on someone over ten years younger than me for advice. For goodness sakes, I was HER teacher. When did this role swap?! It reminds me of a children's book. The mother took care of her little boy, soon the boy ended up taking care of his mother. Anywho, the dinner was nice. The Fiance and I hardly talked seeing how we were placed at opposite ends of the table. Nevertheless, I learned that he shares my hobby of biking. This is exciting.

The Bad News is that he'd like for us to move. You see, he's been offered a position in Spain. Having lived in America for my entire life, adjusting to a foreign country will be quite difficult. Had it been Germany, I would have been okay. I took 7 years of German, so the language barrier woul dharldy be a problem. I do not speak more than 10 words of Spanish, excluding counting from 1-10. Hola, Adios, Si, Que, Burrito, Chalupa, Taco, Queso, Bien, Comos estas.
I am doomed. I hardly know what the Euro is about. My mom thinks it'll be good for me since the famous Hagia Sophia will be near us, but I can't seem to see the bright side. My father, like me, was a bit outraged. The Fiance offered to take my parents as well, but they declined because of my younger siblings. Wonderful.

Anywho, I am thankful to have a Fiance and to experience Spain.

Salams

~Muslim Princess~

Shiny Things

2005-05-12T20:31:00.000-07:00

Asalam a'lakum,

Recently, my fiance went shopping for my engagement ring. (I'm referring to this before we got engaged). Anywho, he followed the rule that males should at least follow. The Engagement ring must cost at least 2 months of his salary. He spent a gracious 1/2 month's salary to begin with. Clearly, I wasn't satisfied. I didn't show it, mind you, but I was EXTREMELY disappointed on the inside. I found myself thinking negative thoughts about him. How awful. Over a piece of jewlery. Sister S managed to bring me back to my senses somewhat. However, since my mother disapproved of the ring choice, his stingyness disappeared and he brougth back a beautiful ring.

Brothers

The ring is very important to the girl in most cases, although we will not express it. Please learn if your fiance prefers gold or silver. In my case, Sister S and I both prefer gold. Not the yellow kind, mind you, we'll take the white gold, jazakallah. Also, realize that this is something the girl will keep the rest of her life. Make it something good and worth keeping. Don't make her secretly cry and yearn for a different man. Think about what the Prophet (S) would do. Anywho, also learn what kind of rock she likes. I, myself, prefer emeralds while Sister S craves diamonds. It all depends on the person's likes and dislikes. It's important for the male to learn this. Also, this IS NOT your class ring. Goodness, treat it like your big screen television. It must be the "perfect" one. The wedding ring should be even more extravagent. Unless you're really poor, you should be able to get your wife a nice at least 5000 dollar ring. I don't usually worry abou such matters, but you see this is something I shall keep for the rest of my life. I don't love my fiance yet, so he can only earn my appreciation through material objects and respect.

I'm going to go clear my head.

Salam

~Muslim Princess~

My Deepest Apoligies

2005-05-05T14:24:00.001-07:00

Asalam a'lakum,
Please accept my deepest apoligies, brothers and sisters. I was not able to make a new post due to my parents discussing the matter of my marriage. The matter of my marriage, and the discussion with my parents that I must have with them on it, makes me nervous beyond words. As I sat there trembling, my mother thought it was "cute." Adults. Lol, I believe when I look back on it, I'll think it's "cute" as well. :-P

Anywho, Marriage is very sacred. It's not something to be taken lightly. It takes great responsiblity to make it work, and one should keep in mind that nothing is perfect!

Ok, I shall try to find a supporting article.

Edit:
Visit www.dictatorprincess.blogspot.com for the supporting piece. Jazakallah cncz!

Allahafiz!
~Muslim Princess~

Exams--EW!

2005-05-02T20:09:00.000-07:00

Asalam a'lakum,

I will update tomorrow. I'm terribly sorry. Do not think that I have forgotten you my brothers and sisters. I simply have a lot of exams at the moment. Fear not, tomorrow an entry!

Jazakallah

Allahafiz
~Muslim Princess~

"I Don't Have Time"

2005-04-22T16:43:00.000-07:00

Asalam a'lakum

Ah, well it's that time of the week again..an update from yours truly. Recently, as many of you know I have been undergoing many changes within myself. I feel as if I am maturing beyond the crowd of people I "hang out" with at the moment. This worries me a bit, but Inshallah everything will be alright.

I think it's a good idea to discuss the matter of Salat (Prayer) today. So many of us take this gift from Allah (SWT) granted. So many of us make excuses, and put off prayer till later. Why do we do this? *
*Note I say we and us...I, too, am guilty of this at times. It is my goal to stop this horrid thing at once.

I came across a lovely khutbah that I was looking up for our Muslim Meeting this week, and it outlined many of the reasons we make excuses NOT to pray. How horrible.

How many of you honestly pray 5 times a day with full concentration, to the best of your ability?How many of you have friends that do so?

I believe that all of us should make it a goal to pray 5 times a day. Why on earth shouldn't we? If at the Prophet (S)'s time people were able to while being persecuted, why is it that we cannot in the safety of our own home? Is this what the world is coming to?!

I constantly hear the "I don't have time" and the far worse, dare I reiterate it, "I don't feel like it" and "I don't know how" It is our responsibilities to take this task and perform it like we would any other such as covering ourselves appropriately or bathing. It is incumbent upon us to educate those Muslims that don't feel as if they know how to pray. How dare we abuse such a gift? As for the "I don't have time" excuse. I never want to hear that again. If any of you know me, I hardly have time to breathe. I am constantly running around multitasking, even multithinking...how dare you not have time to pray! I ordinarily am quite patient with others, and bite my tongue for many things...but honestly how horrible is it to take 5 minutes of your time to give a few rakat? I beg you to take this oppurtunity.

Prophet Muhammad (S) recieved the gift of prayer. The gift, people. We should treat it as our finest gift of all. It is something that we recieved in order to help ourselves be forgiven by Allah (SWT). We should take every advantage of prayer (which I'd love to list, but I must go to the masgid in 5 minutes), and instill it in our minds, so that we will not be tempted to skip such a great activity.

I assure you, you feel far more "cool" and complete having prayed Salat rather than watching that T.V. Special. If you can stay up for two hours watching a sports game (I love sports, too...don't jump on me for that); you can find time to pray as well.

Thank you...very much everyone who has linked me. As soon as I get a moment, I shall link you back as well. I greatly appreciate it, and it is much encouragement. :]

Also...I ask you to pray for my dear friend, __' relative. He is in the last stages of lung cancer and was a doctor himself. The family is quite mellow at the moment, and I think that extra prayers for another never hurt anyone. May her relative recieve Jannat (or Jannah/Heaven ..whichever you prefer.) It's terribly depressing how I have another friend who just lost an uncle to lung cancer.

Allahafiz
~Muslim Princess~

The Grudge

2005-04-15T11:15:00.000-07:00

Asalam A'lakum Brothers and Sisters, I apoligize for not blogging for a while. I was taken ill, as many of you know, and was unable to continue posting. My deepest apoligies. Alhamdulliah I have returned back to nearly full health. There are moments when I still feel dizzy, and when I nearly cough up my lungs, but other than that -Muslim Princess- has indeed returned! Today's topic, is Forgiveness. As Muslims, we should make ourselves quite forgiving. After all do not we call our Allah (SWT) the Most-Forgiving? Do not we accept that Prophet Muhammad (S) was extremely forgiving? It is within our best interests to follow the example of Prophet Muhammad (S), correct? So Brothers and Sisters, why are so many of us not? I don't want to be hypocritical, so I shall admit that at times, I find myself holding a grudge, unwilling to forgive. It happens to all of us, correct? Let us work together to overcome this. After thinking for quite awhile, I have come to the conclusion that one must be selfless. This is a very important trait for us to acquire as humans, and especially as Muslims. It will help us everywhere. So many of us hold grudges, for trivial, stupid things even. What good is it to hold a grudge? Holding a grudge is just the like incessant cycle of revenge, no? Here's something I recently witnessed. I walked into a local Pakistani store looking for some rice. As I approached the bags, two women, hijabis may I add, were standing there arguing. From what I deciphered from their conversation, rather arguement, is that a few years ago Woman 1 accidently stepped on Woman 2's foot at Eid Namaaz. Oh dear, I couldn't help but roll my eyes. You see, in a location like ours, it is impossible to make it out of Eid Prayer without getting your feet trampled upon at least 3-8 times. These women were arguing over an icident that took place years ago, most likely by accident. At Eid Prayer, the crowd moves toward the doors together. The door is a choke point. It gets increasingly crowded. As one nears the door, they are soon just being moved along by the motion of people. I was apalled to see two women making such a big deal over this. I decided to interfere, and they first looked at me as if they wish that I'd disappear, but then realized how foolish this was.
Those of you with anger problems, this will help you. Sure, grudges are held for other more powerful reasons, but it is necessary to forgive. I am not saying you must be best friends, but you must be amiable.
I must nap now, Allahafiz!
~Muslim Princess~

Muslim Unity

2005-04-10T11:23:00.000-07:00

Asalam A'lakum,
I have started a new blog, and Inshallah you guys will enjoy it! I shut down my Xanga due to the odd sorts of individuals roaming blogs. ;-)

Unity.
The definition of this word is
1. The state or quality of being one; singleness.
2. The state or quality of being in accord; harmony
As provided by Dictionary.com

The question is, do Muslims know about the meaning of unity, or do they have a sheer disregard and lack of respect for it? I do wonder.

Muslims are supposed to have a strong sense of unity, since we are all truly Brothers and Sisters. We should all want the best for each other in every possible way. We're supposed to keep hate out of our hearts, and instead fill ourselves with acceptance, love, and understanding. Is it just me or has this concept perished from today's society?

More and more, I see Muslims against Muslims. Is this what we need when the world is attacking us? I hate to use a quote from Bush, but "United we stand; divided we fall." The world at the moment is NOT feeling Muslim friendly, people! It is our job to UNITE as the ummah we are, and to bring peace to the world. We are NOT supposed to go around starting wars and foolish battles amongst ourselves. How are we trying to prove that we as people are good and peaceful, if we can't even get along??

It is incumbent upon us to work hard to unite ourselves before this grave mistake takes a toll on our well-being. This life is simply a test, and we often forget that. So, Brothers and Sisters I ask you to talk to people at your masgid/mosque and let idea out. It is something very important.

Take care!

Allahafiz

~Muslim Princess~

P.S. I have two excellent blogs for you all to visit. http://islam4real.blogspot.com/ A must read as well as http://lessonsoftheday.blogspot.com/. Don't skip out; these are worth your time!